Recommended Reading

One of the best ways to protect your daughter is to learn more about bullying and how to counter it. Read the adult books on this list that seem right for you, and share the children’s books with the girls you know and love. You'll open the door for important conversations about bullying and help girls develop effective strategies for standing up against it.

For parents & teachers

The Bully, the Bullied, and the Bystander: From Preschool to High School, How Parents and Teachers Can Help Break the Cycle of Violence
Barbara Coloroso

A book that both parents and teachers can use to deal with bullying.

Girl Wars: 12 Strategies That Will End Female Bullying
Cheryl Dellasega and Charisse Nixon
Two experts offer practical and effective solutions that can stop girls from hurting one another with words and actions.

Easing the Teasing: Helping Your Child Cope With Name-Calling, Ridicule, and Verbal Bullying
Judy S. Freedman
A reference for parents and educators who want to help teasing victims acquire the coping skills necessary to manage these painful incidents.

Bullies and Victims: Helping Your Child Through the Schoolyard Battlefield
Suellen Fried and Paula Fried
Suellen Fried, a dance therapist and community activist, and her daughter Paula, a psychotherapist, collaborate on an analysis of peer abuse among children.

Cliques: 8 Steps to Help Your Child Survive the Social Jungle
Charlene Gianetti and Margaret Sagarese
Examines the powerful impact cliques can have on children and offers parents effective aids for helping their kids.

How Can You Say That? What to Say to Your Daughter When One of You Just Said Something Awful
Amy Lynch
Offers practical, expert advice on how to turn hurtful conversations into exchanges that promote forgiveness and nurture your relationship with your daughter. Winner of the 2003 Parent’s Guide Award.

What to Do When Kids Are Mean to Your Child
Elin McCoy
A practical book for parents of children ages 5 to 13.

Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and Other Realities of Adolescence
Rosalind Wiseman
Offers parents a guide to navigating the adolescent landscape.

Schools Where Everyone Belongs and Empowering Bystanders in Bullying Prevention
Stan and Julia Davis
These books offer insights and strategies to help schools prevent and address bullying.

Web sites

Adults & Children Together Against Violence:

National Youth Violence Prevention Campaign:

The Ophelia Project:

Stop Bullying Now!:

Olweus Bullying Prevention Program:


Wired Safety:

Success in Stages:

For girls
Fiction books

Bully on the Bus
Carl Bosch
Written in a "Choose Your Own Adventure" format, this book deals with a common problem faced by elementary school children. For ages 7 and up.

Chrissa – Order now
Mary Casanova
Highlights the struggles that Chrissa faces when she moves to a new school and begins having run-ins with the “Mean Bees.” When their teasing turns into serious bullying, Chrissa must find the courage to stand strong and speak out. Includes discussion questions for you and your daughter. For ages 8 and up.

Chrissa Stands Strong – Order now
Mary Casanova
When Chrissa and her friends start getting mean text messages and e-mails, it’s hard to know whom to trust. Includes discussion questions for you and your daughter. For ages 8 and up.

The Hundred Dresses
Esther Estes
A short chapter book about a group of girls who pick on someone who is a little different. Told from the perspective of the bully's best friend. For ages 5 to 9.

My Secret Bully
Trudy Ludwig
Follows the story of two girls who have been friends since kindergarten and the conflicts that arise when one begins excluding and embarrassing the other. For ages 7 and up.

Say Something
Peggy Moss
A young narrator witnesses bullying at school and on the bus but remains silent. For ages 5 and up.

Trouble Talk
Trudy Ludwig
An upper-elementary-school girl has a friend who learns that gossiping and saying mean things hurts everyone, including herself. Ages 5 to 8.

Non-fiction books

How to Handle Bullies, Teasers, and Other Meanies: A Book That Takes the Nuisance Out of Name Calling and Other Nonsense
Kate Cohen-Posey
Offers useful tips on how kids can use verbal techniques to turn a bully's slurs inside out. For ages 9 and up.

A Smart Girl’s Guide to Friendship Troubles: Dealing with Fights, Being Left Out & the Whole Popularity Thing Order now
Patti Kelley Criswell
Quizzes, real-life case studies, and tips encourage girls to be true to themselves, value good friends, and know when it’s time to walk away. Winner of the 2003 Honors NAPPA Award. For ages 10 and up.

Stand Up for Yourself & Your Friends: Dealing with Bullies and Bossiness, and Finding a Better Way – Order now
Patti Kelley Criswell
Offers advice on how to ignore a bully, speak up, be a good bystander, and reach out for help from trusted adults. Includes “10 Big Truths About Bullying,” a tear-out note to parents. For ages 8 and up.

“Stick Up for Yourself!” Every Kid’s Guide to Personal Power and Positive Self-Esteem
Gershen Kaufman, Raphael Lev and Pamela Espeland
Exercises help readers explore their feelings and needs, while stressing that they are responsible for their own behavior and happiness.

I Can Make My World a Safer Place: A Kid's Book About Stopping Violence
Paul Kivel
Encourages kids to think about and act to promote peace at home, in their communities, and in the world. For ages 9 and up.

What Do You Stand For?
Barbara A. Lewis
True stories about kids who are making a positive difference in their schools and communities. For ages 9 and up.

The Feelings Book: The Care and Keeping of Your Emotions Order now
Lynda Madison
Straightforward advice, tips, and coping strategies help girls learn to understand their emotions, express their feelings, and stay in control. Winner of the 2002 Parents’ Choice Approved Award. For ages 9 and up.

Cliques, Phonies, and Other Baloney
Trevor Romain
Examines cliques versus friendship groups, phonies versus real friends, and popularity versus being popular with yourself. For ages 8 and up.

Bullies Are a Pain in the Brain
Trevor Romain and Elizabeth Verdick
A simple approach to dealing with a difficult issue faced by millions of children every day. Graphic format with cartoon characters and lots of additional recommended resources. For ages 8 and up.