Dear American Girl,

My best friend and I have been inseparable for as long as I can remember, but recently, she and I had a really big fight. I've tried to apologize, but she refuses to speak to me. How can I let her know that I'm sorry?
-Friend fix

Here's your advice:

I think you could make a nice card for your friend that explains how sorry you are. Tell her that it makes you unhappy when you two fight, and you would be very glad if you could be friends again. Drop it in the mail or slip it into her locker.
-An American Girl fan, age 11, Michigan

Try small acts of kindness, such as leaving an eraser in your friend's favorite color or a small piece of candy on her desk with a note. It might help her come around enough that you'll have a chance to apologize.
-Erin, age 10, Florida

If you have been trying to talk to your friend about this at school, maybe she doesn't feel comfortable talking about it there. Instead, try calling her on the phone, texting her, or sending her an e-mail to let her know how sorry you are.
-Morgan, age 8, Colorado

If your friend isn't interested in talking to you, you could pull her aside for just a moment to say, "I want you to know that I'm sorry, but I also want you to know that I'm going to give you some space. I'm here whenever you're ready to talk."
-Jess, age 10, Virginia

Give your friend a little time to think things over before trying to apologize again. Maybe you should do some thinking, too. Was the fight worth it? Is there something you can do to fix the problem besides apologizing?
-Veronica, age 12, Missouri

You could draw a comic for your friend. Illustrate the story of how you two became friends, and apologize about the fight, too. Maybe if she sees how sorry you are, she'll move on and you can be friends again.
-Lili, age 11, Illinois

Here's a creative way to approach this problem: Make a collage or a scrapbook of photos of you and your friend. Write a note on it that says, "I'm really sorry. I just wanted to remind you of the fun times we've had together." I hope this can inspire your friend to work on the friendship and make it strong again.
-Claire, age 12, Virginia

One of the best ways you can show that you're sorry is through your actions. If your friend notices that you're doing everything you can to make things right, she might start talking to you again. Remember, actions speak louder than words.
-Abby, age 13, Tennessee

Even though it's hard, try to get your mind off this problem and do other things, such as seeing other friends or doing a favorite activity. Your friend might miss you and realize that she needs you as a friend.
-Nancy, age 11, Indiana

Keep it simple. In person or in a note, you could say, "Our friendship means a lot to me." It might make your friend see how much you want to work things out.
-Polina, age 9, Illinois

See if your friend would be willing to come to your house for a bit. Maybe she could even come for a sleepover. It'll give you time and privacy to talk, and you could start having fun together again, too.
-Isabella, age 10, California

In this situation, try to be the nicer person. Always be polite to this girl, even if she isn't showing you the same respect in return. Having an attitude and saying mean things will get you nowhere. If your friend means a lot to you, keep showing her kindness, and it might rub off on your friend.
-An American Girl fan, age 12, New York

If you try your best to make up with this girl and she still won't accept your apology, then maybe she's not a true friend. Accept it as her loss, and have fun with your other friends. Good luck!
-Ana, age 8, Canada

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