Dear American Girl,

My friend and I had a big fight on the last day of school. We haven't talked to each other all summer. I still want to be friends with her, and I want to fix things before we go back to school. What should I do?
-Friends again?

Here's your advice:

Your friend might not want to make the first move. You should be the bigger person and apologize first. Then your friend will see that you still want to continue a friendship with her.
-Bianca, age 10, Washington

Invite your friend for a sleepover. Break the ice by suggesting an activity that you two have always loved to do, such as watching a favorite movie or playing a funny game. After lightening the mood, talk to her. Apologize and try to spend the rest of the night having fun.
-Allison, age 12, Kansas

Good for you for wanting to fix your friendship—that takes courage. If I were you, I would send my friend a note in the mail saying how sorry I am. Even if she doesn't respond right away, at least she'll know that you care.
-Sophia, age 10, Colorado

It's possible that your friend isn't angry anymore. You should call or e-mail and casually ask how her summer's been going. Don't mention the fight. If she brings it up, then talk it out.
-An American Girl fan, age 11, West Virginia

Just say you're sorry that you two fought and tell her you want things to go back to normal. If your friend is still chilly with you, put things in perspective. You could say, "This happened a few months ago. Do we really want one disagreement to ruin our friendship?"
-Mollie, age 13, Texas

Every friendship has its ups and downs, so there's still hope for you two. Invite your friend to go back-to-school shopping. During a quiet moment, explain how you feel. Chances are, she feels the same way.
-Jordan, age 12, Utah

You should call or go over to her house to talk things out. Try not to start another fight. Instead, say that you want to be friends again and tell her how your summer has been. I hope you two can work it out.
-Hannah, age 13, Florida

You could make something nice for her, such as a friendship bracelet or photo frame. When you give it to her, maybe she'll understand that you're sorry and you want to make up.
-Dana, age 10, California

Talk to your friend about your feelings. If it feels awkward, allow yourself 20 seconds of complete embarrassment. You'll thank yourself later if you two can restore your friendship.
-Jenna, age 12, Oklahoma

Call your friend. She might not be ready to talk to you, and that's OK. Just tell her how sorry you are and that you want to be friends again. Keep the phone call short and sweet. It might be the first step in repairing your friendship.
-Abigail, age 9, New York

Keep it simple with your friend. You could just say, "Hey, I don't like fighting with you. Do you think we could get over what happened and continue our friendship?" If she says no, it's time to move on to other friends.
-Miranda, age 12, Connecticut

Spend some time reflecting on things. Why did you two become friends in the first place? What caused the fight? After you think everything through, have a heart-to-heart with your friend.
-Destiny, age 10, Mississippi

Friendships can be rocky. Sometimes a girl thinks the other girl should apologize, so neither does. I'd apologize regardless of who was right or wrong. Your friend might end up saying that she's sorry, too.
-Ana, age 12, Hawaii

Before school starts, tell your friend that it's a new year and ask if you could make a fresh start with her. A sincere "sorry" could patch things up. You could say, "I'm truly sorry for what I did, and I'd love to be friends again." Try to start the year off on the right foot and make things right with your friend.
-Lauren, age 10, Florida

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