Dear American Girl,
I recently auditioned for my school's choir. As I walked into the audition, I felt confident and held my head high. I was sure that I would make it—but I didn't! Now I can't seem to get over it, and on top of it, I feel jealous of the kids who got in. How can I feel good about my talents and myself again?
-Hitting the wrong note
Here's your advice:
I'm sure you will have other chances to join a choir. You can try out again next year, or you can become a member of a choir at your church or in your community. Don't let this little setback get in the way of doing what you love.
-Emma, age 12, Pennsylvania
Try not to feel jealous of the kids who made the choir. Just because they're in the choir and you aren't doesn't make them better people than you. If you cheer on your friends in the choir and work on your own singing, you can improve your chances of getting into the choir next time.
-Candace, age 13, New Hampshire
You should feel proud of yourself that you had the confidence to try out. Some people are too afraid to sing in front of anyone, so the fact that you auditioned shows that you have a lot of courage.
-Shameecka, age 10, Georgia
There might be a reason why you didn't make it into the choir this year. Right now it might not make sense, but it could become clear later on. Try joining another school group or club—I bet your talents are needed elsewhere.
-Bethany, age 12, Florida
You have to remind yourself that the result of an audition doesn't define your identity or make people like you any less. As long as you tried your very best, you are not a failure—not even close!
-Clara, age 13, Pennsylvania
Remember, your family and friends love you for who you are. They don't think less of you because you didn't get into the choir. They're proud that you tried, and that's all that matters.
-Fia, age 12, Delaware
Even though you love to sing, check out other hobbies or activities, too. You could join your school's basketball team, become a member of a book club, or even start a fun club with friends. Remember, in your life, you're not going to make it into every group or be perfect at every audition—and that's OK.
-Eva, age 9, Michigan
Talk to your choir director. Ask if there's anything you can do to improve your singing and better your chances for making it into the choir next year.
-Sadie, age 10, Massachusetts
I love to sing, so I auditioned for a musical. I really wanted a part, but I didn't get one. When my family and I went to watch the performance, I realized how many lines I would have had to memorize. I ended up being glad that I got to spend the summer playing with my friends instead of practicing lines. Try to look on the bright side—maybe this will turn out for the best.
-Rachel, age 9, Missouri
If singing is fun for you, then don't let getting turned down for the choir stop you. Sing with your friends, sing along with a popular song, and sing in the shower. Keep singing because it makes you happy.
-Chloe, age 11, Alabama
In history class, I've learned about many heroic people who fell short of a goal but tried again and wound up on top. Remind yourself to keep trying, and use the disappointment to motivate yourself to try even harder.
-Rose, age 13, Pennsylvania
All I can say is stay confident and wait for another chance to join the choir. If another chance doesn't come around, you might find another thing that you enjoy just as much.
-Claire, age 11, California
Think of some great things about yourself. Maybe you're an awesome athlete or an expert guitar player. Remind yourself of one good thing about yourself every morning. Just because you didn't pass this test with flying colors doesn't mean you won't succeed at other things. You rock!
-Mckenna, age 10, Ohio
Don't be hard on yourself. Think about other kids who also didn't make it into the choir. Some of them could feel just as bad as you do. Sometimes when we don't get what we want, it helps us become stronger and do better next time.
-Reilly, age 11, Minnesota
As someone who for half of my life has been a classically trained dancer, I've frequently been in and out of auditions and competitions. Sometimes I place high in competitions, and sometimes I don't place at all. Understand that in life, you'll get a "No, sorry," more often than a "Yes, you're in!" Just because you didn't make the choir doesn't mean you aren't great at what you love. Keep your head held high, because there's always next year. While you wait, practice as much as possible, because hard work pays off.
-Madi, age 12, New Jersey