Dear American Girl,
I had surgery this summer and now have three scars on my knee. I’m embarrassed when people ask me about the scars. It also gets on my nerves. What should I say when they ask? What if someone makes fun of me?
Here's your advice:
You could laugh it off by saying, “Oh, these old things? They’re my battle wounds.”
-Skyler, age 13, West Virginia
It’s OK that you don’t want to talk about your scars. Kindly say, “I’d prefer not to talk about that” to anyone who asks.
-An American Girl fan
I had two surgeries and have three scars. At first, I was embarrassed and very self-conscious about them. However, I know that the people who love me don’t mind them. Those who do mind them are not the right people to have around. Just remember that you are beautiful.
-Barbra, age 14, Texas
I have a scar on my face. I didn’t think I’d ever get used to it, but I did. It can take a while to adjust to looking different than you did before. It’s not always easy, but you can do it. Veronica, age 11, TexasIf someone brings them up just say, “I know. They are so fashionable!”
-An American Girl fan
Keep in mind that nobody has a “perfect” body. Most people have multiple scars and many “flaws.” Each scar has a story.
-Marguerite, age 11, Michigan
I have several scars and I like them. They make me feel like a warrior. With that attitude no one ever makes fun of my scars.
-Gianna, age 11, Maryland
Nobody should make fun of you for having scars; it’s part of being human. If you were brave enough for the surgery, this should be a piece of cake! I hope you feel better soon.
-Molly, age 12, Illinois
My dad has surgery on his knee all the time. The scars are there to remind you of what you’ve been through. I have a birthmark near the corner of my eye, and people are always asking me about it. I politely say, “I don’t want to talk about it.”
-Fiona, age 12, Maryland
The people who ask might just be concerned about your well-being. You could reply with a short and sweet answer like, “I had surgery over the summer but I’m feeling much better!”
-Melina, age 12, Ohio
I had surgery too. I now have a big scar starting on the back of my head and ending at the very bottom of the back of my neck. I talked to my mom about how I was feeling and that helped a lot. My advice is to try talking to someone that you trust.
-Hannah, age 14, New Jersey
Try to think of your scars as unique. No one has exactly the same scar as you, and that’s pretty cool.
-Alex, age 13, Colorado
When people ask you about the scars, you could tell them a story. That way, the scars won’t seem so unusual.
-Emily, age 11, Illinois
You can’t change having scars but you can change your attitude about them. You are who you are and it’s good to learn to love yourself.
-Fallynne, age 11, Illinois